You've got to play the ball where it lies. Accepting circumstances and asking God to give you peace in the midst of them is the way to go. He promises peace in the midst.
S Trevor Francis, son of an artist, was born at Cheshunt, Hertsfordshire, in 1835. He was a merchant in London and he knew how to write cool tunes.
"Trust the Lord and do good; live in the land, and farm faithfulness." [Psalm 37:3]
We are not the sum of the opinions of others. We are who God says we are. If we live responding to what others think of us, we'll live disappointed, fragile misery. If we live to please God, there is joy, peace and Grace that can be ours.